What is your #1 driving force?

Did you ever stop and think how your daily behavior shapes your world? I had not been putting much thought into any of my actions and emotions for a while. Sometimes it’s easy to put the blame on “life” or certain situations that arise, yet “life” and such situations pretty much manifest through our own actions, thoughts, and words. Coming to reality with one’s self is a pretty extraordinary feeling. There are so many things that make you feel uncomfortable but at the same time it’s so rewarding. I believe we must be a work in progress for our whole lives. Always searching for ways to better ourselves. Accepting our flaws, faults, and weaknesses is what in the end, makes us powerful.

I recently learned that there are 6 major driving forces, or NEEDS, for all of us humans. Each one has it’s powers and it’s kryptonite. The goal is to identify which need is pulling us, learning how to focus it in the direction of power, and work on balancing the rest of them. So here goes, the 6 Human Driving Forces:

1. Certainty – you search for comfort and certainty in your life. For example, you like routines because you always know what to expect and nothing surprises you. Power: You can stick to daily tasks and you don’t get bored. kryptonite: you don’t handle change well and are scared of takings risks. You can easily become “lazy” or unmotivated.
2. Uncertainty – This is the complete opposite. You need variety in your life in order to avoid boredom and predictability. Power: You welcome any situation with open arms and risks are adventurous. Kryptonite: You have a hard time following rules.
3. Significance – you strive to feel significant, or important, in other people’s eyes. You goal is to create a sense of identity. Power: you are determined to find your sense of purpose and achieve your goals. Kryptonite: Progress can be equal to what others think about you.
4. Connection – you yearn to be connected to people. You need to give love, be loved, and belong. Power: Love = Happiness. Kryptonite: Not feeling loved can make you feel unworthy.
5. Growth – you strive to constantly learn something new, experience new things, level up in business, or grow mentally/emotionally/spiritually. Power: your ambition keeps you striving and doesn’t let you quit. Kryptonite: getting too overwhelmed by doing too much and not enjoying the process until you “make it”.
6. Contribution – you need to contribute to the community. This force is all about adding value to other people’s lives. Power: what goes around comes around. You’re vibration is about giving therefore you receive in return. Kryptonite: you put yourself last and forget to tend to your own needs.

My driving force has always been CERTAINTY. I realized that instead of using my needs in a powerful way, I was actually operating completely off KRYPTONITE mode! I never liked it when life got tough. I normally situated myself in the most comfortable experiences. In my mind I wanted more, (Growth force), but physically I acted on Certainty. I let time pass, and felt that routines made me happy when in the end it was just an excuse to be lazy and depend on others. Yes, that’s me telling it like it is. If you can’t face yourself you will never GROW. At this point I’m focused on the Growth force but I will not allow myself to do TOO MUCH and get overwhelmed. If I do that, I will end up quitting.

Our brains are literally STUFFED with thoughts, concepts, information, memories, traumas, images, etc that have created the person we are today.

Why not reach in and eliminate the things that harm us and substitute them with ones that bring us joy?

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Till next time..

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Dai